Bail Money
December 4, 2008 
I may need some of that soon. I am about ready to go ballistic on my ex-inlaws! For those of you who are kinda new to me, I will provide a quick catch up. Travis is not Taylor’s biological dad. That “title” goes to a pondscum sucking, oxygen wasting, pus infected cum bubble, horribel excuse for a human being never mind a man, person named Matt. The other key components to this story are Matt’s parents, Mike and Sharon.
One of Matt’s brothers (well, a wife of) recently had a baby. And a “meet the baby” kinda thing was held at Mike and Sharon’s. Taylor received an invitation to go. She really didn’t want to go, but I talked her into it. They only way she would go , is if one of her friends could come with her. Well, several phone calls later, they finally agreed to the stipulation. The party was from 11:00 to 1:30. This was also over mine and Travis’s anniversary weekend. And Taylor and her friend were going to baby-sit Seth for us so we could go out. Long story short, she didn’t get home until almost 7 and it was because Taylor made a scene that she wanted to go home.
We then get a phone call about 2 weeks ago. They were holding Thanksgiving on a Saturday, did Taylor want to come? This whole family thinks that I am the reason Taylor has nothing to do with them. They seem to forget that Matt has never once called to see how Tay is doing, he hasn’t gotten her a birthday or Christmas present in about 8 years (and I’m NOT exaggerating on that). She wants nothing to do with him. And everytime she sees Mike and Sharon they try to shove MAtt done her throat. Which pisses me off. Greatly. And I’ve told them that, repeatedly.
Mike has tried to make excuses that Matt’s wife (who has been with since he and I were married…and her name is also Becky, cute huh) is very insecure and jealous of Taylor. Excuse me?!? What kind of man, oh yeah i kinda forgot that he’s not one of those, would let someone stand in the way of seeing his own daughter. Could he not find a way to go to the mall and get a present. Can he not call on his way home from work. Whatever. I don’t buy that. And Taylor and I have discussed this at great length. She wants to know why he’s an ass, and I try to explain tihngs. I try so damn hard to not badmouth Matt or his parents in front of her. I try so damn hard to have her call the grandparents and be willing to go out to eat with them. But she doesn’t want, too. And I’m not going to make her. She’s fully capable of making up her own mind. if and when she decides that she wants to be a part of that family, it is her choice.
Do I want her to be a part of it? Hell no! They have fucker her and me over so many times that I want her to stay away from them at all costs. But I will NEVER tell her that. I will support her decision, whatever it may be. Now the family is asking about Christmas. The only reason Tay even likes being around them right now, is because the “other” Becky hates it when she is there. And Tay just wants to ruin her day. Which cracks me up, but again, I don’t tell her that.
Anyway, I am thisclose to telling them all off and kicking some ass while I’m at it. Which is why I may need bail money. Wish me luck people, this probably isn’t going to be pretty.
Screw the bail money I want to help!! I understand they might want to see they granddaughter but they need to suck it up and realize that your daughter wants NOTHING to do with them! I hope all works out for you and I would be beyond pissed too!!
Nikki…Welcome to the “Dark Side”! I can use all the help I can get:) Thanks!
I have leather gloves and I’ve never been to your neck of the woods.
Just sayin’.
If you can put the ass kicking off until after the holidays I’ll have some free cash.
I won’t even go into my woman and child scorned rampage but seriously, I’ll help you if you help me. ::wink wink:: At least we’ll have company while awaiting trial.
Okay – so have you looked in the Wisconsin adoption laws or anything? Each and every time Taylor sees him, it starts the waiting period over, according to IL law. I had to tell The Loser’s family that T was NOT allowed to go over there anymore if he was going to be there. If I found out that he was there, their visits would be revoked. They knew that I was bitch enough to do just that too so they never let him be around after that.
Also – check out if WI has Grandparent’s Rights Laws. IL used to but they were re-written and it takes a lot more now. They’d have to sue you and go through a lot more trouble than I sure they are willing to go through.
Taylor is old enough to be able to make these decisions. She shouldn’t be forced to be around him – that’s cruelty on their parts.
As far as bail money goes, I’ll have The H on standby. He’ll be able to get me, you and Nikki out, no problem.
LeSombre…I’ve heard good things about leather gloves. And its a lovely time of year to visit
Delmer…For you I will wait.
Sheila…Count me in! I haven’t really checked into the adoption laws. In 4 1/2yrs she’ll be 18. I do know that she wants to change her last name. But she has to have both parents approval to do that. Tell the hubby “thanks in advance”!!
I have been looking for an excuse to go on a shooting spree. Count me in!!! These people sound like douche bags and you are a better woman than I am because I wouldn’t want my kid around a piece of shit and a woman who doesn’t like her anyway.
Stop playing middle man. They can communicate with each other without going through you. That way if she doesn’t want to or if she has issues or concerns she is free to express them directly to the family. Nothing wrong with being honest. I have a step dad and divorced parents of my own, I know!
It is lesson time for her and also best for them to come to terms with her wishes and her own feelings. Take yourself out of the equation if you can. I would.
That sucks Becky! At least Taylor is a bright enough kid too realize that that side of the family isn’t that great and doesn’t have their ‘missing parent’ on a pedestal like some do.
If you need me to take a baseball to some kneecaps I totally can. I’m Irish and they do it in the movies so that pretty much qualifies me right there.
That and I’m CA which pretty much means I’m from LA and in some kind of gang or something. So I can knife a person too if need be.
Although all of this is hypothetical to save my own ass. I don’t mean it…of course not…
Becky I agree with Sarah, “…at least Tay is bright enough kid to realize that…”
I think you are doing the best thing that you can do. Stand beside your daughter.
I hate that “they” are pulling Tay against her will and they are so stupid that they can’t see that.
I always am, though I know I shouldn’t be, how grown people can be so freakin’ childish and retarded. (i.e. the “new” Becky is jealous of Tay?!?- WTF is that about? What grown woman gets jealous of a child?” Ok, I better stop or I will just off!)
Both you and Tay are so better than this situation and I’m sorry you have to go through this. Just know I’m always a phone call away if you ever need help moving the bodies. Whoops! Did I just really say that??? LOL